I'm not at work and this morning's going very slowly. It's grey and damp, mostly.
This afternoon is mhw
's funeral. As mentioned elsewhere
, it'll be followed in a week or two by the event that Kay would want
people to attend.
I didn't post anything to LJ or FB immediately after Kay died, although a lot of other people did. I wasn't entirely sure what to say, or very good at finding words to say it.
Kay was one of the people I met in my first year at university; he was one of my best friends for almost 20 years.
If we hadn't met, I suspect my life would have gone in a very different direction. I can look around the room and immediately see a dozen things that wouldn't be there if I'd never met Kay - classical CDs, books (especially cookbooks), RPGs. Those are just the superficial things, the most obvious reminders.
The other things are hard to quantify. Lots of good times - including the reason that I no longer drink green chartreuse At All. Picking up the phone at an unsociable hour and talking me down from an incoherent state when I'd fried my brain on sleep deprivation and taurine. Reminding me - and others - that (metaphorical) underpants should not be worn on the outside.
Persuading me that I might actually like classical music if I gave it a chance. And that I might not be bad at cookery and might enjoy it - and that geeking about cookery was definitely
fun. Being there as a friend and voice of reason when I was young and stupid and not entirely comfortable being me.
It's a very long list, much of it probably doesn't make much sense to anyone else, and I doubt it would fit into one LJ post anyway. I'm sure that time and memory have hidden away more than a few other things, too. They do that, sometimes.
I suspect most people who knew Kay have their own lists. A few of them have already appeared on LJ and FB, because Kay knew a lot
of people, through a lot of different social circles. And general opinion (which I most definitely agree with) is that knowing Kay generally made your life better.
Time to stop ramblng now. Things to do.